While the holiday period is meant to be a happy time for children, it is also one of the most common times for parenting disputes to occur. Changes to usual routines, competing family plans, and different expectations around Christmas and school holidays can cause tension when they do not fit with existing parenting arrangements. In many cases, these issues arise not because parents are unwilling to cooperate, but because plans are unclear or made without enough notice.
Why Holiday Disputes Happen
Holiday disputes often happen when usual routines are disrupted, expectations are different, or plans are made without clear communication. Family events can add extra pressure, increasing emotions and leading to misunderstandings. When disagreements arise close to the holiday period, parents may feel unsure about what options are still available to them.
What the Law Says
Court orders are legally binding and continue to apply during the holiday period. Parenting plans are not enforceable in the same way, but they still reflect what both parents have agreed to and should be followed unless both parents agree to a change. One parent cannot simply change arrangements or travel with a child if it affects the other parent’s time. Doing so can breach court orders and create unnecessary conflict.
Options for Resolving Disputes
Even when time is short, there are ways to resolve disagreements without going to court:
- Direct Agreement – Parents can agree to adjust arrangements at any time. Confirm changes in writing and include replacement time to keep relationships balanced.
- Mediation or Lawyer-Assisted Negotiation – Urgent mediation can often be arranged, and lawyers can negotiate directly with the other parent or their solicitor. Most holiday disputes resolve through these pathways, which are faster, less costly, and less stressful than litigation.
When Court Becomes Necessary
Urgent court action may be unavoidable when:
- One parent refuses to engage or negotiate
- There are safety concerns
- There is a risk the child may not be returned
The Court can hear urgent applications and make orders on short notice. Any decision will be based on the child’s best interests, including their safety, stability, relationships, and practical arrangements for ongoing communication.
Practical Tips for Parents
If you’re facing a holiday dispute:
- Review your parenting orders or plan
- Offer reasonable make‑up time
- Avoid non‑refundable bookings on travel until consent is obtained
- Seek legal advice promptly if discussions stall
Proactive communication and early advice usually lead to the best outcomes.
Keeping Children at the Centre
Holidays should be a time for positive experiences, not legal disputes. With early planning and open communication, parents can support enjoyable holiday time while maintaining the stability children need.
If you are experiencing difficulties reaching agreement on holiday arrangements or require urgent legal assistance, our family law team can help you explore practical solutions including mediation support and, where necessary, urgent court applications to achieve clarity and certainty before the holiday period arrives.
